Monday, January 31, 2005

Ms. Patti, M.D.

I have to preface this post by saying that I love my son's daycare. I think it's a great center. I have only had a problem with one teacher - who no longer works there. My son is very happy and enjoys his time at "school".

My son has a perpetually runny nose. My son produces copious amounts of drool on a daily basis. At one time in his life, the pediatrician chalked both of these things up to teething and prescribed Tylenol for the pain. Then we moved to Wyoming where the pediatrician said he had allergies - particularly to milk, which caused the runny nose and drooling. She prescribed Claritin and no milk. His new pediatrician thinks that it's just household allergies and prescribed one round of Amoxicillan.

During this time, I have had too many day care providers to count tell me that my son has everything from a "bad" cold to strep (that's what causes rosy cheeks - don't you know) to needing to have his adenoids out.

Today, I picked him up and he was seriously runny and the drool had soaked through his shirt. His teacher had to get snotty with me about it. Here's the conversation as it happened:

Ms. Patti: "He has been like this all day. His nose is very runny and he's been a drool machine. You can even see it in his eyes that he doesn't feel good."

Me: "Wow, he has been drooly. He felt fine over the weekend."

Ms. Patti: "Well, he's certainly not fine today."

Me: "Well, I'll try and get him in to see Dr. Knott either Tuesday or Wednesday."

Ms. Patti: "I think that would be wise. He should check his adenoids again."

This is the conversation as I hear it:

Ms. Patti: "He has been like this all day. His nose is very runny and he's been a drool machine. You can even see it in his eyes that he doesn't feel good. What kind of shitty mother brings her sick kid to daycare"

Me: "Wow, he has been drooly. He felt fine over the weekend. (Well, sort of...)"

Ms. Patti: "Well, he's certainly not fine today. And again, I want to question your abilities as a mother. Why don't you seek medical care for your obviously sick and possibly dying child."

Me: "Well, I'll try and get him in to see Dr. Knott either Tuesday or Wednesday."

Ms. Patti: "I think that would be wise. He should check his adenoids again. As I know more than your pediatrician and even though he doesn't think that it's adenoids - I DO. What kind of mother would just take the advice of her child's pediatrician when there's obviously so much more wrong with your child (not to mention your shitty ass parenting)"


This is where I begin to lose it. My son's sinuses have been an ongoing problem since he turned six months old. I take him to the doctor anytime I feel it's necessary, BUT I don't have the time or the money to take him to the doctor every time he gets the sniffles. I'm at a loss. I don't know what to do. I don't want my child to continue to have these problems, but I've had three different pediatricians look at him and all of them think he has allergies of some kind - but aren't sure how to treat it long term.

I hate feeling like a bad mom. Actually, my problem is that I don't feel like a bad mom. I feel like a do a good job as a mom. What I hate, is that people (someone?) think that I'm a bad mom.

Ahhhhhh....Mommy guilt. The shit never stops.



24 Comments:

At 2/01/2005 12:32:00 PM, Blogger Melissa said...

First of all, you're certainly NOT a bad mom. hehe..I love your "conversation as you heard it". If this were a cartoon, then it'd be a thought bubble. haha

Second, you've touched upon something that I've just recently figured out. Doctors really don't know anything. Especially general family doctors. Surgeons and some specialists know their stuff, but not regular doctors. I can't even count on both hands how many times I went to the doctor with a problem, sat in the waiting room for over an hour, sat in the doctor's office for over a 1/2 hour..only to have the doctor prescribe tylenol to me. It's the biggest sham ever!! Not only that, but they often misdiagnosis people. My mom was prescribed the wrong medicine for her problem years ago and could have died. Anyways, unless you get President Bush's doctor or Tom Crusie's doctor, then you're probably getting screwed.

And, don't listen to that witch at the day care center. Tell the doctor to write her a damn note that says it's not adenoids.

 
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